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Running through a diagnosis of dementia

Toughness might as well be Tom White’s middle name.

He served nearly five years in the U.S. Marine Corps. In 33 years with the Jacksonville (Florida) Sheriff’s Office, he worked his way up from patrolman to detective. He learned SCUBA rescue. When he retired from that gig, he spent 10 years working in other law enforcement posts, mostly as a fire marshal. Tom always has served the public, always given back.

In his spare time, Tom is an avid runner. About 10 years ago, he and his wife Becky challenged each other to run road and trail races in every state. They were well on their way until 2022, when Tom received a dementia diagnosis that rocked his world. Tom wasn’t about to let the disease derail his goal. So, with the blessing of his doctor, the dynamic duo kept on running.

As of this writing (early September 2023), the Amelia Island, Florida-based couple has completed races of varying lengths in 33 states. They recently wrapped a race in Alaska, under the midnight sun. They’re registered for races in Oregon and Washington before October begins.

“We’ll keep going until we can’t go anymore,” the 74-year-old Tom tells BrainWise. “I don’t care what the doctor tells me. There’s no way I’m giving up on life.”

Becky, 71, agrees.

“We may not be as fast as either one of us was years ago, but we’re still competing, still participating, and still finishing these races as best [as] we can,” she says.

Love of culture

Sure, Tom loves the endorphin rush of running a race. In his earlier days, that and a competitive spirit would propel him through marathons several times a year. As Tom aged, his interests matured, and he became less focused on the race itself and more focused on the culture that racing inspires.

One year—2003, to be exact—Tom came up with an idea of racing with a camera and taking pictures of what runners see from the course. These images captured fellow runners in grief and agony, spectators cheering on loved ones, and more. According to Becky, he became known as “the runner with the camera,” and everybody knew his name.

“People get pictures of the finish line, but they don’t ever get images of what’s going on during the race,” says Becky, who worked for years as a photographer for the Jacksonville Times-Union herself. “Once Tom started taking these pictures, everybody loved it because it was different and unique.”

Tom’s photos were published in Becky’s newspaper. Later, the local news station spotlighted his work.

Feedback on the photos was overwhelmingly positive. In subsequent races, runners and spectators would cheer for Tom every time he strode by.

Love of travel

Tom still races with his camera, though he isn’t taking many pictures anymore, and the race distances have shortened from full marathons (26.2 miles) to halves (13.1). Now he also has other priorities, such as maintaining his balance on the course and finishing each race so he can cross more states off his list.

He and Becky both say they love the new challenge because it enables them to see the world.

“It’s not so much about staying in shape as it is about being together and seeing all of these new and exciting places we’ve never seen,” Becky says. She adds that her personal objective every time they book a new race is to plan the trip so they can get out and see interesting attractions in or around the race destination.

To find sights to see, Becky investigates websites such as Atlas Obscura and Roadside America.

When they traveled to Illinois for a marathon, for instance, Becky discovered the race was near a tiny town named Metropolis, which was inspiration for the home of Superman. When they traveled to the western United States, they saw the Grand Canyon and Mt. Rushmore.

“Every place we go we find something unique and memorable,” Tom says.

Love of storytelling

Upon returning home, Becky prints out pictures and puts together photo books as mementos of their trips. Becky decorates each book to reflect something from the trip.

For example, on the front of the book from a trip to Louisiana is a picture of a crawfish.

Becky notes that the books serve two purposes: To tell stories of the couple’s adventures and to collect memories so Tom can access them easily if he needs to. She adds that the books are symbols of their love, too.

“There aren’t a whole lot of husbands and wives who do this together,” she says with a tremble in her voice. “We always do it together, at the same pace, which means he’s usually going slower for me. There’s no competition. Instead, there’s cooperation. We’ll say, ‘Give me a hand’ or ‘I’ll pull you up.’ We enjoy it more because we do it together. There’s no pressure that way.”

What’s next

Tom and Becky say they’ll keep running races as long as they can.

Becky says the two of them probably shouldn’t be running half-marathons any more, but they’re still doing it for now. She says she envisions a time in the near future where the duo might downgrade to 10- or 5-kilometer races instead. She adds that the distance doesn’t matter.

“Tom and I always say, ‘It’s you and me from here on out,’” Becky notes. “It’s important to nurture that, I think. I will always be here for Tom and he will always be here for me, no matter what. We treat each other with respect and dignity. We support each other. Really, that’s all you can ask for from a partner in this life.”

Tom agrees. He adds that once he and Becky hit all 50 states, they plan to start visiting the home nations of their ancestors, which include several countries in Europe.

“There’s nobody I’d rather be doing this with,” he says. “Nobody in the world.”

What to consider after a loved one receives a diagnosis of dementia

The patients and families in my clinic are often referred to me for this key question:  “Do I have dementia?”  

Family members may sense that something has changed for their loved one. Patients may know something is different but may not be fully aware of the problems and changes they are experiencing. This can lead to a great deal of fear around the potential diagnosis and what the future may hold after that diagnosis. It also highlights the importance of thorough evaluation and clear communication around assessment findings. Dementia is a familiar term to most people, even though it is often used incorrectly. The word, “dementia,” refers to the depth and breadth of cognitive and practical problems.  However, the term “dementia” does not speak to what is causing those problems. The underlying cause of dementia can be any number of things, including Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, stroke, and many more. Despite the cause, informing someone that they have signs of dementia—of any kind—is often heartbreaking news for patients and their families. It’s also difficult for the doctors who deliver that news.  This is why many doctors hesitate to share the diagnosis or defer the responsibility to specialists.

This is where I come in as a neuropsychologist. Breaking that news is one of the single most difficult things that I do in my clinic, and yet I do it often. In helping patients and families digest this news, I’ve come to see it as an honor to walk patients and families through the practical first steps of being introduced to the realities of the diagnosis.

To help make this happen, I ask families to prepare for the worst-case scenario and live for the best case.

I encourage families to prepare for problems ahead of time instead of responding when the problems are too big to ignore.  Emotions can take over and cloud judgment too much in those times.  First, I ask families to think through their loved one’s practical needs.  How much practical trouble is the patient having in their day-to-day life?  What help do they need now?  How can they prepare for, if, or when that trouble gets worse?  I ask them to be familiar with their loved one’s daily routine and their usual needs.  A big part of this is familiarizing themselves with their loved one’s medication regimen and financial situation. It’s ideal if families can be comfortable with these needs before their loved one needs help, but it’s never too late to start. 

I also ask families to update their home emergency plan, to make sure their loved one is safe in case of a house fire or natural disaster, for instance.  These situations can be doubly hard for a person with any kind of cognitive problem. 

Some of the questions to think about are harder.  I ask them to think long and hard about driving—how much longer can the person who has received a dementia diagnosis keep driving safely?  The answer is different for every person. The gold-standard driving skills test is a practical behind-the-wheel test with an occupational therapist who is specially trained to examine driving skills.  Neuropsychological evaluation can also assess some skills that are important to driving, such as how fast the brain can process information and how easy it is to juggle attention. Sometimes, scaling back driving to good weather conditions, within a few miles from home, with little to no distraction in the car might be the most appropriate choice, and sometimes, no driving altogether is the better option.

I ask families to consider their plans for their loved one’s long-term care.  When will they need to ask for help in caring for their loved one?  What might that help look like?  For different families, and at different times for the same family, it might mean help from friends and neighbors, scheduled respite care from a professional caregiver, live-in help, or nursing home placement.  Considering all options ahead of time can be a great comfort when and if a patient needs more hands-on care than their loved ones can give alone.  The financial aspect is also important to consider. Do they have insurance policies or benefits for long-term care?  They may also want to contact an expert in elder law for advice on how to protect their loved one’s assets if their condition worsens and long-term nursing facility care is needed. 

I ask families to make sure that their loved one has Advance Directives for Health Care (this is also known as a Living Will) and Power of Attorney for health care, legal decisions, and finances.  Many states, including my home state of Kentucky, have premade documents to cover the basics of a living will and health care power of attorney.  Families should be aware that power of attorney for health care does not apply to finances and legal issues, so asking a trusted attorney for guidance on those issues can be important.  Once the documents are done, keeping multiple copies of them in a safe place with other important papers, as well as on file at the patient’s primary doctor’s office, can give a lot of peace of mind.

Beyond these important issues, I ask loved ones to think about what I call The Big 5.  These are five key parts of brain health for anyone and need special attention for families dealing with a diagnosis like dementia. (Click here to download a PDF of the infographic below.)

An infographic about five important issues to consider after a loved one has been diagnosed with dementia.

Head injury prevention

Falls are bad for older adults in just about any condition; for those with dementia, they can speed up the onset.  When elders fall and hit their heads, it can cause bleeding on the brain.  I advise family members of my patients to always protect the patient’s head. This can be as simple as making sure pathways are clear and shoes fit well.  Be aware of little pets that love to be underfoot.  Put bars in the bathroom and on the stairs.  Make sure area rugs don’t curl up and cause hazards.  Sometimes, an Occupational Therapist can do an in-home evaluation to give pointers for safety. 

Heart health

In general:  Anything that’s good for your heart is good for your brain.  Your heart is pumping about 20 percent of your blood straight to your brain every time your heart beats—a large closed-loop system of pipes connects them. If something goes wrong with a patient’s heart, it increases the chances that something can go wrong upstream in the brain. This means it’s important to stay on top of things like blood pressure and sleep apnea. It also means following a heart healthy diet, like the MIND diet, avoiding processed foods, and getting reasonable, regular exercise.  One of the most important keys to heart health is well-known:  No smoking!  Quitting smoking, or never starting, is one of the single most important things we can do for our brain health and for the rest of our bodies. 

Sleep

I tell my patients to treat sleep like it is sacred.  When we sleep, our brains go through their regularly scheduled maintenance programs. It’s like taking your car in for an oil change and transmission service —especially during REM sleep and deep sleep.  We all need this sleep, but people with dementia might need it even more.  Some new research says that deep sleep might help slow down the progress of the disease.  This shows why sleep apnea can be such a problem.  Sleep apnea disturbs our sleep cycles, sometime keeping us from getting enough REM and deep sleep.  It also rations the oxygen in our brains, which can make thinking problems worse.  Sleep apnea can also increase the chances of heart attack and stroke, which can damage the brain even more.  If you have sleep apnea, good treatment is important. 

Cognitive activity

Especially as we age, we must keep thinking and using our brains.  Our brains are made to learn, especially in the real world, engaging in the activities of real life.  Read the book. Visit a new place. Try a new food. Learn a new hobby.  Meet some new people. Our brains love all that stuff. Sudoku and crossword puzzles are great, so long as they are engaging for someone’s brain.

Stay Connected

There are all kinds of research proving that loneliness is toxic to our physical bodies. Isolation is not good for us. I always tell loved ones and family members of my patients: Now is the time to double down on relationship.  Check in on them, make sure they have every opportunity to connect with friends and family to maintain their important relationships and connections.  This is especially important if a patient cannot drive:  Those folks too often get cut off from the outside world.  While doing this, it’s also important to make sure the patient doesn’t get overwhelmed.  Because of this, families might need to rethink how best to offer those connections.  They might need to rethink how to manage family traditions, like big holiday dinners.  Again, talking about these issues ahead of time can help immensely. 

Remember when I said that I want my patients to live joyfully, no matter their diagnosis? I know none of this sounds all that joyful.  But remember, I want to help these families prepare for the worst and live for the best.  Because of this, I also ask them to go have fun.  Especially if the diagnosis comes early, I tell them: Take the trip, do the experience, get after it. If there is anything you’ve dreamed about doing, do it.  Spend time together and love one another with intention and dedication.  Do this, and some of your best memories may be ahead of you, not behind you. 

Click here to download a PDF of The Big 5 infographic.

For more information about elder law, check out the National Elder Law Foundation and the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys.